Y’all, I nearly forgot my password it’s been so long since I posted. Cheers to first post of 2019! Sorry, the holidays will do that to you. I know, it’s January 25th…. let me clear that up. Holidays, bowl game season and basketball season will do that to you.
I wanted to jump on and give an update on Jace and his talking. For those who know me, I’ve been stressed out over the last year about his talking, or lack of talking. He was behind on his words, and it was having an effect on his altitude. He’d get frustrated really easily. He was hitting and scratching, sometimes for no reason. I chalked it up to just being the terrible twos. But now I look back, and I think he was frustrated because he couldn’t express himself.
How far behind was he? When should we be concerned? Do I need to start speech therapy? These are the things I thought about on a daily basis. When you’re a first time mom, you don’t have anything to compare your child to… beside the internet and your friends kids. We have a wonderful pediatrician who told me to stop comparing my son to other kids. They all learn and develop at different times, but she did say if we were concerned there were some great programs in our area where we could take him. She said there’s no way of knowing whether he’s just a “late talker”, or if he would eventually need speech therapy. Her best suggestion was to see if myself and his teachers noticed any progression throughout the school year.
WIthin the last month or two, it was like a light bulb went off in Jace’s brain, and all these words started pouring out of his mouth. I don’t even know how or why. It just clicked. He’ll do this thing where he says a sentence, and you have to repeat it back to him as if it’s confirmation that he’s saying it right. After that, he’ll start using that phrase more often. The last couple days he’ll come home with words I don’t even know where they come from! Tuesday he said “Mommy, I’m thirsty”. The other day it was “That’s delicious!”http://touchdownsandtantrums.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/01/617B430E-0771-4FCA-89A2-44BE3EEDD0F8.mov
It’s had a GINORMOUS influence on his behavior as well. He can express when he’s frustrated. He can tell me when he wants something. Looking back, it all makes sense now. I would get pissed and hit something too if I wasn’t able to express wanting food or a certain toy. Lately, his teachers and my friends have all commented on how far he’s come in the last few weeks. (Talk about a moment that brings on the water works). Don’t get me wrong, there’s still some attitude. He is a toddler after all. And the abundance of words all at one time has had an effect on his sleep habits. He gets up around 2 am every night just talking to himself.
I know this is not the case for every child. My advice is to listen to your gut. There’s some great programs I found within our school district that will help them (at no charge!). I know several friends who’ve gone this route with their kids. I felt it was important to share Jace’s story, because well, we share most of everything! Also because I spent hours scrolling the internet looking for answers, and maybe someone doing the same will see this post and find some answers in it. If your child get frustrated easily, this many be one of the reasons why. It’s also taught me not to compare my son to my friend’s kids. They all reach milestones at different times. I can tell you right now, Jace will be one of the last ones to be potty trained. He’s got no interest, and I’m ok with that.