Current phase: biting

My kid is a biter. Actually, let me take that back. My kid is a beautiful, happy, always laughing, wonderful kid who happens to have an appetite for biting recently. If you follow me on Instagram or Facebook, by now you’ve read my struggles.

It started two weeks ago out of the blue. He got frustrated at a kid hogging the slide, and bit him. I chalked it up to just a one time thing. But over the last two weeks it’s gotten much worse. The other day at the mall he just ran right up to a kid and bit him as if he were saying hello. He bit our neighbors’ 2-year-old this week. They play together all the time. I’m at a loss.

I’ve read a ton of blogs and books about it. I think Jace has trouble communicating his feelings, and it comes out in the form of biting. It’s like he’s a member of the Walking Dead.

I’ve had so many friends say their kid went through the same stage.  You would think moms would be more understanding then? Nope. I got mom-shamed at the library last week. “Show your son the bite mark! Show him what he did to her!” And then at the gym this week, the nursery folks said “Do you know your kid’s a biter?” Yes thank you for your insight buddy.

But the worst of it is that I feel horrible for my son. He obviously can’t control it. I’m afraid kids at school won’t want to be around him anymore. I’m already afraid the boy next door is scared of him. He really is an incredibly sweet boy. When he bit the neighbors kid he hugged and kissed him. I don’t want him to not have any friends.

So we’re trying being very direct with him. “No biting. That hurts people.” We also bought the book “Teeth Are Not For Biting.” In the meantime, I’ll be the mom hovering over her kid at the playground. I’ll let you know how it works out. I figured if I googled all these questions, someone else out there may benefit from our recent struggles!

 

6 thoughts on “Current phase: biting”

  1. Probably a terrible idea, keeping in mind that I never had kids because I didn’t want to be a mother like mine was 75 years ago – – but, when I was going through a biting phase my mother decided to break me of it by biting me every time I bit someone. I don’t know if it worked, but obviously, somewhere along the line I quit biting. Sorry you are having that problem!

  2. I’m a mom of 4, all adults now. My third was a biter, never of his siblings. It was always a “friend” at daycare. He is the most happy go lucky, always look on the bright side of the four. Be patient. It isn’t easy being the biters parent as I’m certain being the bitees parent isn’t, but the biter will outgrow it. Keep talking and keep your patience

  3. He has probably been bitten. My daughter started biting only after being bitten in daycare. Regardless, It is a phase and will pass.

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